A guy friend stopped talking to me for no reason why???

[Liby Swan]

I have this guy friend who is all amazing and stuff but not right now. He has stopped talking to me for no reason at all. I have thought over every detail in my head and I did nothing wrong. My friends told me to tell him about what I was feeling (wrong idea). It didn't end well, he doesn't like things that are touchy feelly. Even thought he should have said sorry to me I said sorry to him "for the mistake I made". I said sorry and guess what happened? He is still ignoring me! ^_^( Not really no, not a happy face)
I'm so confused is he just playing games with me? or is there another reason? Please help!

[Vivian Hernandez]

Ugh! This happened to me in July...

What I did was didn't talk to him for like a month. Read An Abundance of Katherines. Felt great. Then started talking to him again, first explaining that I knew what was going on and such.

It worked for me. We're still really good friends.

[Samithemonster]

Because. Boys are stupid and icky.

[Danno]

really, you're going with icky?

don't get me wrong, you're so right about the stupid part.  i mean, all the internalization and stoicism is reinforced if not outright taught, but, yeah we're idiots.  very few guys play games 

[spiderboenz]

Maybe he had something else going on in his life that was distracting him. Maybe you were a bad friend, not finding out why he was so distracted?

Or maybe he's just bored with you.

Or maybe you unknowingly did something that pissed him off, then the insincere "sorry" (how sincere can it be, if you don't know what you did) was the straw that broke the camel's back.

[ChelseaIRL]

sometimes people just... well they suck!
i had a best friend for 10 years. we practically didn't have to use verbal communication anymore, that's how well we knew each other. then one day she just stopped talking to me. to this day i don't know why. and i still wish she hadn't done that. (i miss having a really close friend like that.)
since you haven't done anything wrong, and especially since you tried to talk to him, you have to just let it go. just remember that something's going on with him and nothing is wrong with you.
you were completely in the right for trying to talk to him about it. and he was a total jerk for getting mad at you for it. if "he doesn't like things that are touchy feely," then he's gonna have a really hard time in life (cuz that's kinda the whole experience).
since he won't talk to you, there's really no way of telling why he's acting that way. it could be he's going through a tough time and doesn't know how to deal with it. or he's just being a giant asshole. unfortunately, the only thing you can do is back off and wait and see. ideally he'll realize what a jerk he's been and want to be friends again. worst case scenario, you've lost a friend.

[Randy Rice]

Is there an update here? Is he still ignoring you?

[Taara Lynn]

Hey-- the exact same thing happened to me and my best friend, (a guy). He was amazing-- sweet, caring, absolutely wonderful, and, he totally understood me (and vice versa!).

We were so similar and got along so well! We were best friends... and THEN suddenly, he starts ignoring me. :( Tried text messaging him several times (normal messages like 'Hey, what's up'), no response.

Facebook messaged him as well, asking if things were alright, still no response. He's been known to zone out and not talk to anyone once in a while (maybe for a couple of days), but this has gone on for more than a week, which is abnormal for someone who kept in touch with me every day.

The last time we spoke, things were totally normal, perfect, even! No arguments, no misunderstandings, he was just as eager to talk to me as I was. I have gone over what I said over and over again and I still don't understand what I said that was wrong or weird! I am just hoping he'll come around. It makes me sad to think that I might be losing him, he meant so much to me. Well, it's just been over a week, so I'm gonna wait it out. Let's see what happens.

 

How did things turn out for you? I realize your post is quite old, haha :D

 

[Lionel Lafleur]

ok i consider myself a reaosnable young man who does actually do this to girls, i i personally hate that i do it but wen i dont, i dont kno who my friends r but anyway back to you. reason #1: did you recently start dating another guy? guys rnt always shallow or crass but there is an off chance that he might just be talking with you so he can be you BF and now that you found some1 he may be thinking "oo well whats the point now?", "was i just a safty net in case this guy didnt work out?" and "i'v nvr even herd of this guy and he's made a bigger impression then i have?". not taken? well reason #2: the alternative is that he does like you but maybe he's felt like he's just been giving you attention and not receiving. he may think this if he's the only asking question or if he needs to start up the conversation always ( be the 1st to send a text) in this case he just wants you too want him, text hime 1st, ask him questions and make him feel like you're interested in him just as much as he is in you. that didnt happen? reason #3: he's not big on "touchy feely" maybe wat you told him was just more than he wanted to kno and was very ok with just being friends. and last and quite contrary to the 1st on. Reaosn #4: he found a girl, he found a girl who came to him about her feelings before you did and beet you too the punch, this is a worse care scenario considering a relationship shouldnt ruin friendships but any and all things r possible. advice? go find him and talk to him dont call or text face to face talk to him

[Taara Lynn]

Hey Lionel, read through everything. I haven't started dating anyone lately, no. So I don't think it could be reason 1. It might be that he's confused about his feelings for me and has no idea as to how to tell me, OR, he could be just plain ignoring me (possibility of another girl in the picture, too, who knows?) In any case, gonna just wait and see what happens. He's busy with exams this week, and I'm just gonna wait and see if he gets back to me himself, afterwards. Thanks for your help! =] =]

[Michael Lee]

maybe he likes you. as a guy, i tend to get nervous around girls i like, eerrmm here's an example.

 

I was walking home from school, and i saw a pretty girl who was in my homeroom, took me about 5 minutes to get the courage to talk to her. after that i saw her again in homeroom, but i kept thinking that she thought i was a loser and i only waved and then walked away. Now when we see each other i wave and she wavs bu t i always end up thinkign that she's thinking: "oh, this guy again". Alot of us are extremely insecure.

[lavo]

 same problem me also facing now a day..... they are stupid person and can easily forget.....everything... now he s closing to someone... he knows very welll... i'll feel for him.. he doesn't care abt me............ :( but still i'm waitin for his msg... and carin... i hate myself.. why i should wait for him ... i don't know

[Elle Saunders]

if he is playing games with you I don't think he's worth your time. If you still want to be friends with him you should talk to him, explaining that you do still want to be friends x