again... i really doubt he's playing games. there have been a lot of good suggestions on what may be going on in his head. or, was, as this is a discussion from years ago. i hope he just needed time, but to the ladies dealing with this sort of thing right now...understanding goes a long way, and some guys will really want that, or at least to be heard...but even with them...you may have to wait for them to (wise up and) open up. till then, don't disappear, but don't push either.