Am i doing the right thing?

Theres something i did tonight, that even though my best friend will probably hate me for.. is the best thing for her, i am only trying to watch out for her wellbeing... so, i did something i know will probably destroy her and make her so mad at me when she finds out about it.. but i did it for her... even though i know she's going to hate it, it's going to make everything better in the long run.

Am i doing the right thing? or am i being selfish?

edit: Less vaugeness :D sorry guys, i wasn't feeling up to talking about it when i posted this first.

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Well shes been into some bad situations.. and i fear shes going to get herself hurt or killed... I told her mother, and shes most likely going to a boot camp type thing to straighten her out, thats what her mom said.. but she didnt want to go in the first place and shes the one who told me this.. she said that she'd have to leave all her friends and stuff to go to this camp, (because her mom threatened it on her before) but now she might actually be going and it's because i told her mom.

Bad situations = drugs, sneaking out, not eating for days.. getting mixed up with the wrong crowed, alcohol.. she says it's not that bad anymore yet she still hangs around a dangerous type of crowd who shes aware does drugs and messes with shit, her boyfriend was in a gang in LA.

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Permalink Reply by Kenny on November 6, 2009 at 1:03pm: Well shes been into some bad situations.. and i fear shes going to get herself hurt or killed.

I'm gonna need details or else I'll just assume you overreacted.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Queen Nile of Nilantis on November 7, 2009 at 5:36pm: I think you did the right thing. I did a similar thing to/for my best friends a year ago. They both had eating disorders that were getting out of hands, so I told their parents. For a while they hated me for it, and I can't blame them because they were sick without really realising it. But they're better now and they've realised I did it because I love them and that I might actually have saved their lives, at least one of them, who was worse off than the other.
Your friend might hate you for this now, but it probably wont last forever.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by thedragonfruitking on November 7, 2009 at 5:40pm: truth is peopel hardly ever do the right thing but roll with it and do fun shit or something; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Michelle Bruder on November 8, 2009 at 8:53am: Ok. after reading your more detailed description, yeah. you did the right thing.
For sure.
Just make sure that you stay supportive as best as you can, even if she hates you. It might not be the best idea to be constantly bugging her and following her around begging for forgiveness, but make sure she knows you are there, because she's about to hit a rough part of her life that's going to end in a rude, rude awakening.
She'll need friends like you, even if she doesn't think so.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Alan on November 8, 2009 at 9:18pm: Only time will tell. There will be many many ramifications for your decision. and even if it was what was best for her... is doing what is best for her and forcing her into something she doesn't want the right thing... It's very complex. So complex that I dare not tackle it on a public forum such as this.
Good luck... I dunno how to end it.; ▶ Reply to This