Being hopelessly in love with someone you can't have, anyone?

[Hel]

I'm pretty sure I'm not the only Nerdfighter who has been in this situation. It makes me very melancholy and sorry for myself.

 

So, this is a moaning thread I suppose. I feel like the solidarity of fellow Nerdfighters might help to ease the pain a little. That is, if anyone replies. I haven't been on the ning in ages so don't know if it still lives or not!

[Carolina]

I have.

Currently, its someone I have had but won't be with be anymore. We even hang out Monday thru Friday. Sucks, doesn't it?

[Hel]

Indeed. 'Why is the measure of love loss?'

It is further complicated for me by the fact that I'm currently in a relationship with someone else, whom I also love but can't help still being in love with someone else. Who is, in fact, gay. Which is just lovely.

[The Black Knight]

I was thinking as I glanced at the title "It's never hopeless unless the other person is gay". so0o0o0o0o0o. lulz. haha.

[Space Pirate]

do you really think its never hopeless unless the other person is gay? O_O

[Shawn O'Malley (TMBG)]

I know a lesbian that I would be in love with if she wasn't:

A: a lesbian
B: a little bit too old

[Shawn O'Malley (TMBG)]

C: I'm taken :P

[Shawn O'Malley (TMBG)]

never mind A, she's a dude now

[Mallory]

Ohai, currently in love with my best friend who I probably had a chance with earlier in the [school] year, but ruined the opportunity for myself by being a sour little baby and complained about how I hated boys and didn't date.

He's not going out with a girl. I don't want to ruin that. I'd feel too mean.

[Groovy Jones]

Love is a verb - to love. It's something you do for (to?) another person. You should be able to give your friend all the love you care to (please skip taking all this in the dirty sense).

As for that other part where you want him to feel all that affection and adoration back at you; it's intense, and difficult, and perfectly real emotion, but it's not love in the sense of loving at someone to make them happy or building them up.

It may be un-traditionally-romantic to hear, but it's how I sorted out the good and the bad of those whirly feelings that all get lumped together and labeled "love" to sell cards, chocolate, or books about vampires.

[Ereshkigal Inanna]

I recently went through/am still going through the after effects of a really rather bad heartbreak. It was all my fault that he left, and now he won't even speak to me (no, I didn't cheat.).
He was this amazing guy and even though we're still very young I imagined it possible he was it. I guess he wasn't, or he was, and now I get nobody. XD
Lets hope it's not the second one.

[ProudR/HrShipper]

This happened to me - I loved a guy for 2 1/2 years

[Dan Augusta]

For a solid year I was hopelessly crushing on a girl who is now my best friend. When we met, I asked her out; she had a boyfriend, but we started hanging out. I knew very soon how ill-advised my feelings were, that she would never reciprocate, that we would be all wrong for each other as a couple. But all the same, my crush lingered.

I was finally able to shake it because she went out of her way not to lead me on in any way. And now we're pretty close - as friends. Take from the story what thou wilt.