Being hopelessly in love with someone you can't have, anyone?

[Hel]

I'm pretty sure I'm not the only Nerdfighter who has been in this situation. It makes me very melancholy and sorry for myself.

 

So, this is a moaning thread I suppose. I feel like the solidarity of fellow Nerdfighters might help to ease the pain a little. That is, if anyone replies. I haven't been on the ning in ages so don't know if it still lives or not!

[Cavalier]

I've seen this discussion before and never had the need to bother with it, but now sadly I do. She has a boyfriend and it goes against my code to directly interfere with their relationship. But the good news is she's in love with me too.Over a month ago we met at a friends house. We didn't talk too much, but she must have taken interest because she got my number from Facebook soon after and started texting me. Skipping ahead in the story we text all day and we talk on the phone from 9 to 4 in the morning. We constantly flirt and talk about just everything a couple would. She has trouble breaking up with her boyfriend, who is an absolute asshole, because she is just too nice of a person and is afraid. So I wait for him to do something that angers her and she finally does what she should have done months ago. I love this girl. I get to see her this weekend. So I guess this isn't hopeless, but I felt it belonged here.

[Erik Hjalmar]

I'm in love with three girls, and I can't have any of them. The first one has moved to Australia, the second one has a boyfriend and the third one made it clear that we are just friends. And I can't seem to get over any of them :(
It sucks... pretty bad.

[Marie]

Well, for me it was very very VERY intense like, but I think it's the same thing. It was a guy I barely knew, he was a year older than me (I was a sophomore in high school then, I'm a Junior in college now), and I absolutely adored him. Trouble was, he pretty much was not interested. I always felt like I had a chance though, even after he graduated. There was this silly little bit of me that thought, well maybe we'll meet up in the future and something will work out.

Then I found out that he got married! So no, there's probably not a chance that we'll meet up in the future and something will work out.

Luckily I'm over that now, but thinking about it still brings up mixed emotions.

[Emma]

Yes. oh me oh my. Thinking about this is going to make me sad.
We were best friends. I liked him but never dreamed of telling him. This worked out though because he told me instead. In fact, he had liked me for quite a while. And then we were dating and I was so so happy and I smiled in my sleep. I trusted him so much and let him know me more than anyone. We dated for almost nine months. Then he cheated on me. More specifically, he proposed to my friend while we were still dating. The amount of lies he told makes me feel pretty sick. mostly because he did it so easily. And yet. I'm still in love with him. I'm back in the friend role and get to watch him give her cute nicknames he used to call me. I really don't want to love him and I know I shouldn't but I have a difficult time listening to my brain. I don't know how to cut him out of my life. bleh. This feeling is no good.

[Lucy]

I'd like to put in a bid for "still having feelings for someone who hurt me more than anyone else ever has, and hating it." That bastard. I felt like I was going to cry out my organs. It hurt like that, and we weren't even technically dating.
But if he felt anything, he didn't show it at all. Instead, he started screwing some other girl less than a month later.

Now I'm bitter and constantly reminded of how lonely I am.

[weihanns]

Woots.how are you now?

[Kattee L Nelson]

Yeah. The guy I'm still totally in love with cheated on me last night. And broke up with me this morning. So...yeah that sucks. =/

[Britpopbism]

what i'm feelin now. keep saying to myself its all okay, and carry on that way