Fathers, humans, and life

[BC]

Alright so here's how this is going to go. I'm going to rant a bit, first about my father, then second about Humans in general. I spend alot of time on nerdfighters.com. Big deal, father get over it. I could be out spreading s.t.d's and doing drugs like everyone else at my school or I could be on here educating myself more in a day than most highschoolers learn in a year. Sorry pa that I'm not the dream child you wanted, but you cannot relive your glory days through me. I will not play football if I don't enjoy it.I will not watch football if I don't like it. You are not allowed to yell at me and tell me to get off the computer and watch the tv. Television is mainstream culture I want nothing to do with. Don't yell at me to stop staring at the computer screen when you stare at it just as much. Now onto humans in general, specifically my dad. My dad has lead an increadbly unremarkable life. He is your idiological "average Joe" he works in construction, he hates it. He coaches vollyball. He likes it. He works, he comes home, he eats dinner, he watches tv. His life, along with many, is quite boring. To refer to paper towns , he is a paper man. With a paper house, in a paper town, in a paper world. And when mu father leaves this world,( although I don't want this to EVER happen it will inevitbly come) what will he leave behind? A set of paper kids, a paper house, a paper car, and a bunch of carbon. Life as a whole is an amazing thing. Such a specific set of circumstances come together to create somthing so rare and amazing through out the galexy we have yet to find any other signs of it elsewhere. And we take it for granted. We live our paper lives and we do paper things. We need to make this life we have, remarkable. Remarkability is in the eye of the beholder. I think happiness is pretty darn remarkable. And if I'm happy while on nerd fighters. I think I am living my life. Thank you ladies and gentle men for reading through this entire post. Please exscuse the spelling and gramar, I did this on an iPhone. Leave your thought below.
Love BC

[Flora]

You've really thought this through, haven't you. My mother did have a genuis kid who learned many languges and studied History, but she didn't think that was the only thing the kid would do. Now she has to complain that she does all the thinking in the house. It makes me feel terrible. (The kid referring to me.)

[BC]

This was actually quite spur of the moment. You know what flora, Im proud of you. If you mom want say it i will!

[Michelle Bruder]

Well. Your father should be grateful to have a kid like you.
You are going places, much farther than he ever was able to and he should see that as a wonderful thing.
Just stay true to yourself.
You've come to a point where you can't do things to make your father proud, because sadly enough, it's not going to happen.
When I had this realization with my parents, it was a bit rough.
But just realize that and then do things for yourself.
Get good grades for you, learn new things for you, go far in life for you.
And in the future your dad will get it.
And if he's rough on you about it, just stay strong, and soon enough you'll be out of there.
It's depressing, but that's how it goes.
I think you'll be just fine, and will leave behind you more than a bunch of paper.

[President Clive-φ-Davidson]

Wow, you typed that on an iPhone?

I used to feel the same way, until my father had an accident.

[BC]

Oh... how does one respond to that? holy poop, i feel bad now. Me and father might fight now, but we always make up, and become friends again. We really do have a good realationship, most of the time.

[President Clive-φ-Davidson]

Yeah, I know. I have been in this situation, but escaped it before a suitable resolution presented it's self. Thus, I cannot advise you on your actions.

[BC]

This started out about my dad, then it turned into a rant on everything. Im quite good at ranting. Im sorry for bringing up old issues....

[Paulsifer]

I used to have a hard time with my dad, and looking back on it, I can't say I agreed with him on everything, but I can certainly see the forest from the trees now. He wanted what was best for me, and did so in the best way he knew how. Now he and I are friends. We still don't agree on everything, but we've found some common ground and have run with that. I don't know if any of this was advice, or even helpful, but there it is.

[DeusExLibrus]

I've been of the same opinion as you for a while about my own male parental unit. The fact is, he's human, just like the rest of us. Nobody's perfect, and expecting him to be some perfectly understanding machine isn't going to help either one of you. My dad is politically and philosophically on the other side of the spectrum from me, but I figure out ways to spend time with him because even though I think he's wrong on many issues, and completely out of touch with reality and whats really important, I still care about the man. He doesn't take very good care of himself, and I want to spend as much time as I can with him before he's gone. (although the way things go, he'll probably outlive my mom who takes extremely good care of herself)

[JennaHemmena]

My mum doesn't like me on here... My dad couldn't tell you how to turn on a computer... But if he understood it, he wouldn't like it either... I wish they were just NFs like me.

[Neiloy Mukerjee]

I've never been a parent, to be honest - the closest I've been (and still am) is an older brother, so I guess the experience I'm drawing on isn't the ideal sample source, but it's at least something I can relate to.

When I want my brother to do something or to be able to do something, it's not necessarily because it's something I see in myself - in fact, it's very rarely that I want him to emulate me in any way. What I usually want for him is to succeed in places I fail, to do things I didn't do, and I imagine that this is very much what I would go through as a parent, perhaps to such an extreme that in trying to build a life that has things I didn't have in mine, I forget to include things that I did have. As a parent, I think that I would try to build as secure a life as I could for my child, and that's roughly what I try to do now for my younger brother, although I admittedly make the mistake of denying him some of the advantages that would come from doing otherwise.

As for your father specifically, he may be trying to build a conventional lifestyle that's made of paper, but it's probably because he feels like he can rely on that paper to still be there when he's not around. I think this is what counts as "being responsible," but thankfully, I'm not grown-up enough to be calling it that just yet - to me, it's trying to find something that's worked before so that it might work again. I suppose what I'm trying to say with this is that I imagine that your father is trying to look after you the best way he can think of, even if it's not what you would see as a good idea.

[P.S. This probably sounds a bit like I'm siding with your father, but that's because to me, your side of the matter seems pretty clear-cut, so I think looking at things from the opposite angle will help in understanding the situation better.]

[AM Claussen]

For the most part, I had major issues with my Dad growing up. To give you the short version... I did good in school till third grade, Dad put me on Ritalin. Yes, I have a active imagination and as my mom would say; "I would rather have my head in the clouds any day!" When I was a kid, kids on meds meant they were different. I spent up to my 8th grade year thinking there was something wrong with me; something I will never put my son though.

When I was in 8th grade they did an IQ test on me and found out I was way above average... So yeah... take that Dad!

Anyway, I know he was just trying to do what he saw as right. Now that I am older, he knows he can't mold me to be something I'm not.
You know your Dad loves you, he just can't understand how to relate to you.
He might just want to have you get into football because it would be a gateway into knowing you better. He is comfortable in his space, as are you. Men are odd creatures and find ways to talk without talking. Offer to take him to a event you enjoy and humor him by watching a bit of a game.

I love fishing, as dose my Dad. Fishing is our bonding thing.

I went a ranting as well! Jeez, tangent much? Anyway hope someone got something out of that.