So, recently, I posted a video called "Dear Straight men: How to Respond to "Sorry, I'm a Lesbian."
And everything was all fine and good, until 4chan found it.
And the comment page is now an onslaught of victim-blaming, homophobia, and comments about how fat I am, how ugly I am, and how I deserve to be raped. Repeatedly. Also, really racist BS like this:
"she's just mad because her dad stole her eggroll when she was 8"
and also, some other lovely examples that hit all of the above:
"wonder if your dad hit you to much.."
yeah, you can't get men so you "become" a lesbian
i see your logic.
how's it workin' for ya fatty?"
...There's a whole lot but I really feel uncomfortable posting them all here.
The video can be found here:http://youtu.be/ZaGIXdRoxvU. Please comment bomb, and help me flag all the hate as spam/complain to youtube! Seriously, the thing got flooded and there are just some remarks that I *know* are triggering that I don't want to be public. Unfortunately, I can't get to all of them. I need help!
Additionally, I also posted a video that featured my own prose poetry, and talked about my experience as a rape victim (TW: rape, victim blaming, rape culture). The video can be found here: http://youtu.be/YRgenK_Dcac
...and surprise, surprise, /b/ found this video as well. It's not quite as bad, but it's also flooded with victim-blamers and people who keep saying I deserved to get raped, and that I was just stupid. And changed my mind mid-sex. Etc.
Anyways, please help me! I'd appreciate people flagging/reporting for me (if multiple people flag/report these comments [reporting is better because it can result in suspending a commenter's account], we could get rid of all these haters!). I can't flag/report all of them, alone...there are just too many.
And also, it's ruining the video for all the other people who watch my videos because they need hope/identify with the issues I call out/need a safe space.
So please help me reclaim my little online safe space!
Risk(y)Business aka lightspeedsound
Similar thing happened to me once my advice don't rise to it just let the storm take it's course anything you do to provoke these idiots just make's them linger on you longer, sucks I know :(
I'm not actually replying to most of them; the issue is actually flagging all the offensive posts. To be honest, I'm more concerned about my followers and subscribers, because some of the comments are definitely triggering.... :-/
Oh ok I thought you also wanted advice for how else to respond to them, I'll flag what I can.
I wouldn't worry about it. This is for one simple reason: it's 4chan. People who use it are usually these really awful, scummy people who have to idea of the boundaries or right and wrong. I understand that you're upset, but honestly, if you have ever been on or know anyone who uses 4chan then you would understand. Don't let it effect you :) Try to steer clear of the comments :) Disable them if you have to.
Well, the problem with disabling comments is that many people have contacted me using the comments section, and a lot of people want to leave GOOD advice for people in the comments section.
Again, this is more of an issue of the comments triggering other people who come to my page. Also, I feel really uncomfortable turning comments off...because, like I said, some really good information has been posted there as well.
Watched your vids. Well said sister.
On the racism/homophobia front, I know you're already proud enough to front this stuff so I hope this isn't condescending, but the way I look at it is, Asiatic LBGTIQ people have Farrouk Bulsara (Freddie Mercury). What have the racists and homophobes got? Yeah, that's right, I can't think of an epic artist for them either. So if you're into it, crank some Queen and enjoy.
People can be dumb, and in this case, a lot of the people commenting are being really dumb.
I watched the video. It's really good. Don't let people being closed-minded and offensive take that away from you. Forget them all. The advice I've been given on things like this was simply: Know you're right. Know they're wrong. Sometimes, they don't deserve to be dignified with a response.
But I am really sorry that it's happening. That's a really hard place to be. :( Try not to take it personally.