How to get over a first love.

[Marissa McMinn]

I recently figured out that my first love is the most manipulating, selfish, and uncaring asshat on the planet. The sad thing is that I cannot stop thinking about him. He's still incredibly handsome and funny. Pretty much everything I look at is some kind of reminder of him. How do I get over this guy? How have other nerdfighters gotten over similar things?

[Number8]

Start liking someone else. You don't have to go out with them or seriously consider them or even know/ talk to them, just find someone else to show you that there are truly awesome people out there who are worthy of your affections. You know, be a little childish. I've found this to be VERY helpful.

[Nerdylation]

I read this comment and the phrase "best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" popped in my head.

[Ashley]

Hey, I'm going through exactly the same thing as you right now. It pretty much sucks. But I'd have to agree with the person who already posted...try finding someone else. It's what I'm trying to do right now, and I'm pretty sure it'll work, at least as a good distraction if nothing else!

All the best to you :)

[Kenny]

I've been in your position, and when i was nothing pissed me off more that people telling me to move on and find another girl. It was hard enough to find this one, how am i supposed to find another? Well, as annoying as it is to hear that over and over again, it is true. You don't have to go out and find a new long term boyfriend, but try to find somebody else you can like. It doesn't even have to go anywhere, you just need to find someone to like, and it'll make everything infinitely easier.

[Übereil]

Like yourself, that does make everything infinitely easier.

Erm... yeah. You do that.

[Marissa McMinn]

Hmm. That does seem like it might help. Thank you :D

[Kenny]

good luck! I really hope i can help, I hate the way I feel right after a bad breakup. *huggz*

[Marissa McMinn]

*Huggz* it felt bad until I photoshopped pedobear over all the pictures I have of him.

[Kenny]

That definitely should help =)

After I was broken up with my ex for about 2 months I went on facebook and deleted every single picture i had of her. It felt pretty good afterward.

[Marissa McMinn]

"Out of sight, out of mind." is pretty true!

[Leviathan]

I've gone through the same thing. Getting over your first love can suck and be a real pain. It might sound trite, but 'time heals all wounds'. Going out an finding someone else may not be working for you right now because you can't get your ex out of your system, but give it a little while, and you'll be ready to move on. However, be weary of immediately moving on to someone else, as you are currently subject to what we guys call the 'rebound effect'. This makes you emotionally and psychologically (this is usually subconscious btw) more vulnerable, since you will be seeking more immediate affection to replace the one you lost..

[Marissa McMinn]

Ah. That's a very good point, too. I don't think I'll jump into anything too quickly, but it'd be really great to poke around and see what else is there. It's kind of important for me to see the world beyond Cody the Boy Wonder.