I require advice.

*Warning: Teenage gushiness and possible pining follows. Proceed at own risk.*

....So there is this boy. He is very cute, but more importantly he is intimidatingly smart and he is really fun and interesting to talk to. I like him a lot.

Problems:

1. I think he is out of my league. "But wait, MM!" I hear you say. "There are no such things as leagues, and you are just being insecure!" I am skeptical. Because he is cute, smart, charming, and nice to everyone, he is very popular. He has gone out with girls who are better-liked and prettier than I am. I don't think that he would be interested in a spaz like me. This is not me being insecure, this is me attempting to be realistic. I am a wonderful and lovely person, but I am not what you would call "alluring" nor "smooth." I am not particularly skilled in the art of tact.

2. I sit next to him in AP History class, and thus I see him every day. This is fine for now, as I like spending time with him and we do occasionally have some pretty interesting conversations. However, if I were to ask him out and he were to reject me, I would still have to see him every day.

3. He has given me no reason to think that he would be particularly interested in me.

Any advice on what I should do? Should I ask him out, even though I don't think that it will go well? Should I just keep pining and not resolve anything? Should I stop asking somewhat whinny and self-deprecating posts on the internet? Help!

Tags: Advice, Love, crushes, rejection, relationships, teen

Replies to This Discussion

Permalink Reply by Kyra on April 22, 2012 at 10:18pm

USE your words! The best response to both yes and no is mmkay.

Permalink Reply by Christine on April 23, 2012 at 10:41pm

I just wanted to say that he's not going out with those other girls anymore, which means something didn't work in those relationships. Maybe he wants/needs someone else.

Permalink Reply by Karin on April 23, 2012 at 11:01pm

DONT FREAK OUT!
I am in the same sitch as you, and so as a lot of others I'm guessing.

If you cant tell if the guy likes you or not, become more friends with him. Get to know the guy you know?

I guess get used to being arond him, and then maybe once you think your good with him, feel free to ask him out! :D

I too have this issue. But this guy acts interested, but he says he isnt. Bought me food asked me if I wanted to have a picnic, took me to see the Hunger Games, and yet, he says he still doesnt like me. Hes in most of my classes to...which makes everything weirder. and I text him until I fall asleep. So I guess just become a bit more better with him and see. (;

Permalink Reply by Evan Danielson on April 24, 2012 at 8:42pm

If you don't talk to us about it, we'll never know.

Apparently we're "dense" like that or something.

Permalink Reply by Lanie on May 17, 2012 at 6:41pm

To be fair girls feel the exact same way. If you boys don't tell us we'll never know.

Perhaps it's just humanity that is dense.

Permalink Reply by Jamie Mountain on May 17, 2012 at 1:49pm

UPDATE: I asked him out today in the hallway. He said that he would need to think about it. I told him to get back to me about it. In the class period afterwards, I was shaking and kinda close to tears for about 15 minutes, not even because I was sad or disappointed, which I wasn't, but just because I had so freaking much adrenaline in my system. During the last fifteen minutes I felt like a boss, because a lot of girls would not have the ovaries of steel that it took to put myself out there like that. So yeah, I am feeling pretty good. Nervous, but good.

Permalink Reply by Farzana Haque on July 5, 2012 at 12:22am

So did it work out?

Permalink Reply by Jamie Mountain on July 5, 2012 at 5:57pm

He said that he didn't feel that way about me. It was disappointing, but I am okay.

Permalink Reply by Lanie on May 17, 2012 at 6:40pm

As everyone has said "Use your words!"

Also you should flirt with him. Cause you can, and it's fun.

Permalink Reply by Delia on May 23, 2012 at 5:00pm

Ahhh! You poor soul. Worst thing ever.

...I'm sorry, I would give you advice except that I'm terrible with these sorts of situations, so...good luck though!

Permalink Reply by Ana Cecília Sobral Gomes on June 19, 2012 at 5:51pm

Well I don't have much experience on this matter myself but I reckon you should find a way to spend more time with him. Talk to him, get to know him better, and if he starts to show signs of romantic interest, then ask him out. If not, then move on. Or plan his murder.Whatever feels right.