What is happiness, anyway? Money cannot buy happiness. It creates an environment which may make it easier to find happiness. So that eliminates things of material value.
What about love? In loving others, can we find happiness? Perhaps, but this isn't always permanent. People will always let you down sooner or later. There isn't anything on Earth which provides everlasting love.
To be happy, you have to be content. This doesn't mean to think, "Oh, well I have no right to be unhappy. There are people in slums with nothing but a tin roof over their heads and sorta clean drinking water. My life is okay." It's true, but it doesn't help.
Now what? How can one find contentedness and, therefore, find happiness? It isn't easy in a society that holds people up to unrealistic standards.
The list goes on and on, and although societal pressures are a whole different discussion, we now have an overview of certain issues we deal with daily.
Find someone to talk to. This helps. Oh so cliche, I know. But this is the thing.
You can never be helped if you accept sadness.
If you don't WANT to be happy, you never will be. Ever. I pinky promise.
It's true, there are people who need medicine to control their mood swings. This can't be ignored. But, again, regardless of what pill you pop, you can talk yourself into believing it will never be enough.
Man up. Face your problems. Find a hobby. Find a friend. Find yourself, find happiness.
On a side note, this is my first discussion. It's a little scatter brained, I'll admit, but I hope everyone felt a little bit encouraged.
Also, feel free to ask for advice etc.
But that's just asking you to be optimistic about everything. That's like living with your head in the clouds. I'm not asking for pessimism, but how about this, REALISM. Why can't people take things for what they are, good or bad, happy or sad. You don't need to look at the great part of everything, because nobody would do that.
Lets say someones house burns down and they lose their fiance. But he's going to focus on the positive and say,"There are always more fish in the sea." and "I didn't really like that house any ways."
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5um8QWWRvo Please watch the video. It'll explain why optimism, and even pessimism is absolutely ridiculous.
I totally agree. we obviously cannot control everything that happens around us, but no matter what, we always control our reactions to them. if you react in a positive way, and go about trying to change whats wrong with the crappy things that are happening, you will be a lot happier. in short, if you think happily, more often than not you will be happy. ive even seen people with depression have this work for them
I have to agree with most of what you said there. I mean, I once heard that humans are only sad or angry for a certain (short, as in minutes) of time before everything else is something that the person is making themselves feel rather than a natural reaction.
Only you can define your own happiness. There are certain things that bring happiness to people that may not bring happiness to others. Being happy isn't a 24/7 ordeal, but enjoy every moment of happiness that comes your way.
Oh thank you, you flatter me!
But, keeping in mind that happiness is comparative, this would mean that to experience happiness one must experience sadness (or discomfort, as in the case of your walk).
With this assertion, we see that happiness cannot exist without sadness. So, perhaps the act of being happy isn't conscious. However, the act of seeking happiness can define things, which would rely on character, as you said.
Thanks for the reply :3
oh yay, a good discussion!
There are some great ideas here about happiness and how to find it. Thank you Josh Braun for the RSA Animate video, I love those things. It reminded me of a poem I shall now post for you...The Obligation to be Happy