Im not a parent, but i have parents and we were talking and we got into a heated debate about this subject. So i thought you guys and me can try and find an answer. DFTBA
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It truly depends. A tap on the bottom is fine. That isn't going to scar a child and neither is a pinch to the arm or ear or something, but I full blown smack to the point that the child turns red and is in pain is not okay. There is a difference between learning your lesson through a short small burst of pain, and fear of your parent because they harmed you.
But why would you use violence, even light violence to educate children in terms of morality or safety. This seems directly contradictory.
Because the children may not be listening. A small amount of violence is sometimes nessecary to make the child listen.
Absolutely under no circumstances should parents use violence as a means of discipline.
These studies report that as few as 1 adverse childhood experience, in terms of a physical, verbal or emotional abuse increases likelihood of alcohol abuse, substance abuse, impairs longterm memory and more.
The simple answer is that harming a child does not teach a child right from wrong, it teaches a child to fear its parents and that violence is a viable answer.
Not all violent punishments are abusive childhood experiences. You are oversimplifying.