Love at First Sight

[Jade]

Do you believe in love at first sight?

I think it's a nice idea, but I don't believe in it. No one falls in love with someone's personality straight away. Looks, maybe, but it's the personality that counts.

[Camille Bias]

wat about pharmones?
they naturally attract certain people..
maybe not love but a strong felt connection with someone u may not even know... infatuation

[Laura]

I kind of hate to say it...but I don't believe in love at first sight. Love to me is just such a huge thing, that it takes time to develop. I believe in infatuation at first sight tho, like Bias said :P.

[Lenore103]

I don't. I used to be a notorious romantic, until real life hit and I became all practical and such. I would even go one step further by saying that I believe love is a choice, not something you just can fall in and out of. I think the whole "Falling" in love is something concocted by society and culture.

[Camille Bias]

i think love is something u cant help, u cant turn it off... its there forever..
i dont think its real love unless it lasts a lifetime. its like ur familly. u love them no matter wat, no matter how many times they screw u over or hurt u, theres a connection that cannot be broken. thats wat unconditional means. no strings. they take u for u. i feel real true crazy perfect flawed love for another person is that of the unconditional love u have for ur family... u like someone for their qualities, but love them for their flaws. everyone is flawed.

[Chip, A Former Ningmaster]

But that's not true. Love is conditional, and it most certainly doesn't last forever. If one of my family members tries to kill me, I don't think I'll love them any more. And I could be in love with a boyfriend now, but someday we'd probably break up and I'd eventually find someone else to love.

[Camille Bias]

first off, i respect ur opinion, i just highly disagree.
love is not conditional, for someone to think that, its ludacris.
there r different types of love but the one im talking about is that amazing forever rare difficult hard to find love that is essentially perfect because its flawed.
i explained it before.
but wat ur explaining isnt love.
its lust.
true love is out there, most of the time people just dont find it, or do, and dont know it, until its gone.
if u havent loved that one person that could brake ur heart with one word of dismay, or raise u to the heavens with one look.
then that may be y u dont know wat i believe to be true.

[CaptainElaine(Strawbee)Harkness]

Love is there forever....even when you wish it wasn't. It still can continue to haunt you.

I don't believe in love at first sight, but I do believe it can grow within a couple of weeks...it just can't be a strong then as it is with a happily married cuople who have been together for years.

[Brittney]

I used to say stuff like "love is a choice". But why, then, did I fall in (yes, I'm gonna say fall in) love with someone I don't even like? Why, after I chose to leave the relationship, after I decided that he was and would never be someone I was interested in being with, do I still struggle in regards to my feelings for him? Sure, for the past year, I've chosen not to think about him, I've chosen to make sure I have no contact with him ... and all that makes it easier, it makes it semi-possible to forget about my feelings for him. But I went to see him in person a couple of weeks ago. And those butterflies, that crazy giddy happy feeling I've experienced when seeing him that first surfaced when I was only fourteen, that feeling of safety and comfort and just feeling like he makes me more myself? Yeah. That stuff. It's all still there. Even though a year has passed. Even though I don't want to be with him. Even though we didn't so much as graze hands or hug or make eye contact for too long during this recent meeting. Everything was as intense as ever.

I've loved him, unwillingly, for almost five years. Where's the choice in that?

(If this sounds in any way like I'm attacking you, I'm really not. I totally respect you. I just feel very strongly about this issue. I'd love your "love is a choice" thing to be true. So please. Convince me. :P.)

[Ashley]

Lust, or attraction at first sight, is definitely possible.
Love, on the other hand, is a decision--a commitment that should take time to make to one person, not a feeling based on seeing them at a glance.

[Laura]

I completely agree.

[Migdala Vered]

I think it happened to me once.
I was sitting in line to get my hair cut just before the start of grade 7. In walked a boy. All I saw was the back of his head, and I melted... As he was leaving, I caught a quick glimpse and stored his face. I looked for him absolutely everywhere. I had to know him. I don't think it was his scent or his look... I just knew I had to be with him.
About 6 months later, my best friend was telling me about a guy she liked. We were on the bus, she pointed out the window and said "There! That's him!" And I looked to whom she pointed. It was the same boy, he had the same ragged sweatshirt and jeans on, and I knew the face immediately. I got to know him and we were pretty much inseparable until he moved across the country and...
I'd never experienced anything like it. Knowing I would love someone, that we would be so close, just from the back of their head. I'm not quite sure what type of love it was. I believe it was unconditional. He could do wrong, but it was a justified sort of wrong...
Hm... Don't know why I wrote that much.

[Camille Bias]

i believe anything can happen.
some people dont understand because they themselves have never felt that way, and most just have lost hope and faith. maybe because of events that have taken place in their life. things, bad things that have twisted their feelings into knots that they dont even understand. other people believe the worst because its the easy way, if u expect the least out of people and they do fail u. u expected it right? so y does it even matter. they take thmselves out of the game because they rather not live at all then live and be hurt.