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Do you believe in love at first sight?

I think it's a nice idea, but I don't believe in it. No one falls in love with someone's personality straight away. Looks, maybe, but it's the personality that counts.

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I'm not sure I believe in love at first sight. However, I do believe in love at first interaction. You can learn quite a surprising amount when someone first talks to you. The tone and inflection in their voice alone can stir some deep emotions. The way someone looks at you as you talk, the way they smile and laugh. In my opinion, there is a lot to be said for the first time two people talk.
That's infatuation. It takes a long time to get to know someone. People can be anyone they want to be at first, but they only reveal their true selves with time. Even the people who aren't intentionally trying to deceive will be different as more time passes - everyone wants to make a good first impression.
Thinking about it, yes, you're right. Time is always needed for "absolute" love to blossom.
Ha.

No.
It depends on what you mean by "first sight." For example, I fell in love with someone while in 8th grade, but we ended up going to different highschools. I ended up changing schools after 2 years, and on the first day at my new school I saw her. It was the first time I had seen her in 2 and a half years, and the first time I had seen her as a 16 year old, but It was not the first time I had ever seen her.
i dont believe in exactly love at first sight, but it is possible to just make a connection with someone without even saying anything. its happened to me and that developed into love, but i think that attraction is the clostest to love at first sight.
Lust. Love at first sight is lust. Lust that may eventually lead to love, but not love
Absolutely not. Attraction, yes. Love, no.
i dont think that real love can form just by looking at someone. love takes time. you have to get to know the flaws of the person and love them regardless. i personaly dont believe in love at first sight. you can easily be attracted to someone right away, but i dont think love can possible form that fast.
i'm not sure if i believe it or not. Its never happened to me, but anything is possible i guess. inftuation at first sight is deffinatly true though.
Lots of people below say they don't believe, a few others say they do. I personally don't but I do admit I can see a probable scientific reason of why "love at first sight" might still exist.
"Love at first sight" is admittedly an overly romantic notion that has found itself written about, sung about, acted out, and deliriously sought after. Still this doesn't mean that spotting your true love across the room is all just hype. Okay, this guy/girl probably isn't your "true love" but our mind has to fill in the blanks somehow. When people "fall in love at first sight" it's normally not love more such a infatuation or physical/sexual attraction. Now occasionally people luck out and end up in a actual stable and loving relationship, I'll admit that much is possible, but most of the time this person you've spotted is the most attractive, most active, or simply draws a lot of positive attention.
My scientific reason? Sex. Mating. Populating.
"Love at first sight" may just be another one of our instincts left from a time when we we weren't at the top of the food chain and the human race was smaller. Sort of like fight or flight, except more in the manner of mate or die.
But who knows? I certainly don't, this is just a guess, something I've been pondering.
I don't know anything for sure, and I don't know if I would really want to know the every workings of love but it's nice to guess sometimes.
I think lust or attraction can certainly happen at first sight, but love? No. Definitely not.

I say this mainly because to actually love someone you have to be able to know them. I mean, even if the first time you see someone they're super-attractive, feeding starving orphans whilst wearing a DFTBA T-Shirt, and reading your favourite book, they might just have a completely incompatible personality for a relationship with you. Love comes from knowing people, and whilst you might have admiration for or an infatuation with someone when you first see them, that feeling can't be called love. It may, eventually, develop into love, but it isn't love at first sight.

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