Men's Rights

(without any idea of how I got there) I recently read about Men's Rights and some of the issues for which men fight. I will be honest, as a woman I was shocked and then somewhat amused and slightly annoyed that some men felt the need to define their rights, when "rights"-particularly in the US, were written for men and then women and other minorities had to step up and define and claim those rights. But after I opened my mind to these issues I found that some are very interesting and relevant. So I wanted to post to see what other people think. Here are some of the issues, in no particular order. Men, feel free to correct me if I state something the wrong way or to add something to the list:

1) Men have responsibility to children they father without a choice in the matter of abortion
2) Men make the same amount of money for physical labor as a woman who cannot perform the same physical tasks
3) Men are still expected to "court" women and pay for items on dates, etc
4)Men are required to register for the draft while women are not
5)Men often lose custody of children in divorce and rarely receive child support when they do win custody
6)Violence against men committed by women isnt taken seriously (rape, spousal abuse)
7) Men dont have the creative freedom in their dress codes that women do
8)Men often do not get paid paternity leave
9) The preference of women and children over men in emergency situations
10) Men receive harsher punishments for crime

All of these issues are based on trending data. There are also some issues about men dying sooner than women, girls performing better than boys in school, more money and attention being given to breast cancer research than prostate cancer research.......

Tags: civil rights, equality, human rights, inequality, men, sexism, social issues, women's rights

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Permalink Reply by Matt on July 23, 2009 at 5:43pm: I say go for it, but it's something you need to think about. Make two lists. One list is what there is to lose by going for it. The other is what there is to gain. Compare.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Gabrielle on July 23, 2009 at 5:45pm: I hate that kind of logic, especially in matters of the heart. Just because one list is longer doesn't mean the total sum of the other isn't greater.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Leanne on July 23, 2009 at 5:47pm: That's why you add point values to everything.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by asano_man on July 23, 2009 at 5:47pm: Is it really that easy to add a point value to your emotions?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Gabrielle on July 23, 2009 at 5:50pm: No.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kenny on July 23, 2009 at 5:51pm: I am a math nerd, but no matter how many emotion points i get, fear of rejection still gets more points.

And this is weird as hell. I have little to no problem approaching girls in real life, but I'm intimidated by girl's who i can't see and live thousands of miles away; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Übereil on July 24, 2009 at 7:53am: If you don't ask you're already rejected. Therefore asking is the only way not to get rejected.

Now repeat the phrase "I'm already rejected" over and over and over. And over and over. Say it until you mean it! Say it!

Say it already!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kenny on July 23, 2009 at 5:47pm: I'm with Gabrielle on this one, lists don't work with romance.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Bri :D on July 23, 2009 at 5:51pm: it depends though, if you can think of one reason you like her and 20 reasons you don't then it works a little bit; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kenny on July 23, 2009 at 5:54pm: If you're conflicted, then a list isn't going to help. If there were 20 reasons i didnt like someone and only 1 that i did, then there would be no conflict in my head.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Bri :D on July 23, 2009 at 5:58pm: somtimes when you write things like this down in a list you come up with more you like/dislike about a person.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Matt on July 23, 2009 at 6:11pm: It does in this situation. What could you possibly lose? Worst case scenario, she thinks you're a creep and never wants to talk to you again. This means she's probably not the person you thought she was to begin with. It'll hurt, but when you realize how ridiculous it is that the person would do that you'll start to see more flaws with the other person. You'll get over it. Best case scenario, she feels the same way about you. You start internet dating. You meet each other in person and it doesn't get awkward. It continues on to the point where you get married (if you want to) and have three beautiful kids (if you want them).

You can't have any of that best case scenario unless you go for it. People are too weary about what they're going to lose, myself included. What I'm trying to learn is that in order to gain I have to give up the fear of losing. In order to win, you have to play, and during the game you're going to fail. Life has many tiny deaths along the way.

So, that's my advice. Take it or leave it.; ▶ Reply to This