religious assistance...? >.<

[kIRAkIRA]

hello everyone! this is going to be quite long...and sorry if there is already a similar post. I am wiccan but my boyfriend wants me to become at least partially christian for him because it's a huge deal to him. i kno that is quite a load of bs and i have every right as a human being to choose my own religion but im tired of the fighting im looking for a compromisse between religons. i was going to be agnostic but i believe too strongly in the goddess and that you have many lives after you die. i was thinking of keeping my goddess as well as the christian god...any suggestions? please dont post things such as "accept the light of christianity into your heart and banish the wiccan devil" -_- thats just douchey... im asking for help not to be told i worship the devil because i've already got enough of that. i'd like suggestions on a compromise between christianity and wiccan thank you! ^^

[Cavalier]

You can't change your religious views only because someone tells you. You have to actually believe in what you claim to believe in. Being Christian is supposedly about accepting Jesus into your life so he can free you of sin. Only through him can you make it to heaven. Through the bible you can learn how to be "less" sinful by following God's will. So do you believe in that? Do you think you can believe in that? It is not right for me to say the only way you be Christian is to do these things because I do not know for sure and I don't want to speak for all Christians, but I'm trying to say you have to actually believe in all that to be a Christian. And also your boyfriend should accept you as you are, not try to change you.

[Terry]

I agree with most everything @Cavalier said.  Right up to the point where he suggested you could compromise.

It is quite impossible to "will yourself into believing" something which you do not. It is equally impossible to compromise on the moral tenants of your life. 

There are of course always the two time honored approaches to wreak each other's lives and ensure an ugly divorce.

1) Simply lie to him.  Been done for millennia.

2) Agree to pretend the 14 ton elephant is not actually in the room.

 

This sounds terribly harsh, brutal even.  But I believe lies and personal evasions are the main cause of our greater than 50% divorce rate.  Think about that.  More than half the people who swore to love this person forever go to great pain to uproot their life and home, expending huge amounts of cash in the process, for the sole benefit of being rid of that person.

 

It is essential to share your core values with your partner.  My core values don't actually matter in the discussion of you and your bf.  But there is no more important factor than YOUR core values AND HIS.  To add even more to this pile of steaming crap of course, your respective families will be much more eager to insert their values into your relationship than I am.

 

Add children, planned or unplanned doesn't matter, and you take a volatile situation to near certain catastrophe.  It seems clear you are fundamentally incompatible with this man.  Maybe you have the greatest sex ever imagined in a romance novel.  Maybe you had all the same classes and vote for all the same people.  But this is a moral impasse that you will NEVER resolve.   You should part now as friends before you part later as enemies.

[Kenny]

But I believe lies and personal evasions are the main cause of our greater than 50% divorce rate.

 

I disagree.  I think it's giving up on those lies and letting your partner learn the truth.

[Terry]

I suppose that is true :P

[Kenny]

Your two options are to either lie to him or tell him to just accept you for who you are.  If he's not willing to do the latter then maybe the two of you shouldn't be together.

[Vertigo_One [Ops Mod]]

Well frankly, I'm not sure what you're looking for. Wiccan and Christian beliefs are fundimentally incompatable. The Bible would make it fairly clear that the Goddess you believe in does not exist. God actually makes this point fairly strongly to Moses in the desert. When Moeses asks for God's name, he tells him, in so many words, that he doesnt have one in the way humans understand it. Why? Well because humans need names so that one can diferenciate themselves from another. However, God, what with there being no other beings like him, does not need a name as such.

I'm a Chrsitian, and while I'm not going to be unpleasnt with you about your beliefs, I will say that if you love your "Goddess" so much, why exactly are you trying to compromise over religious beliefs with your boyfriend? It seems to me that this kind of thing, if its so dear to you, should be something you should stand up for, and if he can't do that...well your not in a lot of luck there.

 

Out of curiosity though, I would be interested to know, what kind of evidence do you have to support your belief system beyond personal experiance.

[God ~blogs admin ~]

You know, the blue moon must be shining, cause you just stole me words ol' Verty.

[Ali M]

"Goddess"? In quotations? That's a bit insulting. Not that I'm a Wiccan or anything, so maybe I shouldn't be talking.

[Vertigo_One [Ops Mod]]

The reason I put it in quotations was that if it's really her goddess, she shouldn't be compromising her over a boy.

[Ali M]

Alright. I don't really agree with you, but I understand your point.

[Ali M]

Honestly, I don't think you should have to change for him. You can go to church with him if that's what he wants, but stay true to your beliefs. I'm an atheist who would never change my lack of religion just because my boyfriend (or whoever) told me to. However, I do occasionally go to church with my family. You can compromise with the going to church thing, but he has to respect that you are a Wiccan. And if he doesn't? Well then either he has to get over it or you shouldn't be together. Don't become a Christian because he tells you to. Become a Christian because you want to. You have your own free will.

[Amanda Irwin]

You should not change what you believe in just because your boyfriend wants you to. Instead, go to church with him( Surprisingly, I've heard of Wiccans going to church with their parents, boyfriend, ect.). You don't have to believe in Christianity but show that you support him with his religion and that he should support you with your religion. If he does not then its time to consider seeing oher people.

 

By the way Vertigo here is a little something that a lot of people wish to say to you:

STOP BEING A FUCKING DOUCHE BAG!!!!!

 

If you would actually take the time to learn about another religion instead of making assuptions you would know that Wiccanism is a lot like Christianity just with different names.

Example:

Church=Coven

Prayer=Spell

So please, take time out of your 'busy' day of putting other religions down and start learning about them.

http://www.religioustolerance.org

Ironically, the name of the site is something you should learn about.

Dearest kiRAkIRA, please forgive me for what I have written about Vertigo. I just can not stand people who make assumptions about a religion yet never bothers to learn about it.

My best wishes to you.;)