Save a fellow Nerdfighter?

[Savahna Amaro]

Hello Everyone!

I recently met a fellow Nerdfighter who has shared with me that their girlfriend is seriously thinking about suicide :/ Thoughts like that and depression can be a hard battle to fight alone, I thought that maybe a bunch of Nerdfighters could pull together and send in some video clips to make her reconsider? You could talk about why she is worthy and valued, you could give her hope for the future, make her laugh :) If you're interested, shoot me an email or inbox me here on the ning. Thank you!

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[Dave Tarragon, NerdFighting Herb]

I'm the 'fellow Nerdfighter' in this case, so you can also send it directly to me at [e-mail]

Please, do what you can :/

[Marz Ars]

I think that this is a great idea, and I will gladly do anything I can to help. I found this list on helpguide.org of what to do when talking with someone who is suicidal.

When talking to a suicidal person

Do:

• Be yourself. Let the person know you care, that he/she is not alone. The right words are often unimportant. If you are concerned, your voice and manner will show it.
• Listen. Let the suicidal person unload despair, ventilate anger. No matter how negative the conversation seems, the fact that it exists is a positive sign.
• Be sympathetic, non-judgmental, patient, calm, accepting. Your friend or family member is doing the right thing by talking about his/her feelings.
• Offer hope. Reassure the person that help is available and that the suicidal feelings are temporary. Let the person know that his or her life is important to you.
• If the person says things like, “I’m so depressed, I can’t go on,” ask the question: “Are you having thoughts of suicide?” You are not putting ideas in their head, you are showing that you are concerned, that you take them seriously, and that it’s OK for them to share their pain with you.

But don’t:

• Argue with the suicidal person. Avoid saying things like: "You have so much to live for," "Your suicide will hurt your family," or “Look on the bright side.”
• Act shocked, lecture on the value of life, or say that suicide is wrong.
• Promise confidentiality. Refuse to be sworn to secrecy. A life is at stake and you may need to speak to a mental health professional in order to keep the suicidal person safe. If you promise to keep your discussions secret, you may have to break your word.
• Offer ways to fix their problems, or give advice, or make them feel like they have to justify their suicidal feelings. It is not about how bad the problem is, but how badly it’s hurting your friend or loved one.
• Blame yourself. You can’t “fix” someone’s depression. Your loved one’s happiness, or lack thereof, is not your responsibility.

Adapted from: Metanoia.org

[N3rdXGir1]

I am sorry but i disagree with this. I've saved a few people from this decision and i did what the "don't" category says and it worked. These people are still alive today.

[N3rdXGir1]

What I do is pretty simple. Hoping you know this person, you might know why they would think of such and idea(like if they have trouble finding love, if they get bullied, family troubles, money troubles). Depending on the  subject you approach it differently. I usually tell them what they're worth. I explain to them that they are smart, beautiful, kind, important. I explain why they are important and I tell them that even if the whole world where to turn against them, I'd still be there. I'd help them get over there pain and even if they think that i wont understand, I'd find a way to show them that I'm not totally incompetent with this type of pain. Everybody lives the pains and you have to explain that. And if they say that they are just tired of fighting, ask them: the pain is making you grow, it's making you learn. Don't you think that what you've learned and done has been appreciated and will pay off.

If they just don't see the point of life. Be very descriptive of a place they're showing comfort at. If it's the beach: Don't you just love those moments when your just standing there, in front of the beautiful peaceful ocean, with the sand in between your toes, the blazing sun warming up your skin. When you stand in the water up to your knees and the waves go threw your fingers carefully and softly. Do you want to never see that ever again?
 Do that with numerous foods, places, feelings. Just to show that life is worth living.

You are more than problems that they make, more than the sum of past mistakes and the life around you doesn't create who they are. Society doesn't create who you are and even tho you can be judged and labeled that doesn't mean that you have to be what you're  labelled. Create Yourself like you imagined not how everybody else thinks you should be. You are smart, you are kind, You are worth it. You don't need anyone to be who you want. It's thought but you just have to fight threw. And you will  make it because you are strong. I know it.

Hope it helps :3