Why wait until marriage?

[Sarah Hills]

I noticed someone in the 'virginity' board bring this up and wanted to go into more depth with it. Why wait until marriage to have sex? Are you waiting? Why?

What if your partner ends up having a small banana or premature
ejaculation? Will that not bother you? Because surely it would bother
me.

[Mia]

me too. sex is really fun, and marriage is serious.

[Yaara Shalom]

I agree with this.

I also think you need to make sure you have actual chemistry in the bedroom with your partner. You could get to the wedding night, and the sex would suck because you simply don't match for whatever reason. And if you don't have a good, enjoyable sex life, you won't have a good marriage life because this will just be a big massive elephant in your living room.

[kala_way]

If you both enter marriage as virgins you wouldn't know that it could be better or worse or anything, lol. You wouldn't know any different.
Also, there are couples who live happily together for decades without sex. Good sex is a perk of a good marriage, but it's not a fact that you can't have one without the other.
(lol, both ways, as there are plenty of people who have good sex and crappy marriages)

[Cavalier]

I have a bunch of reasons I'm waiting, none of them are religous, just wanted to get that out of the way real quick. The main reason is I believe sex is a really special thing and I want to have it with one person that I care about more than anything and only them. Of course the other reasons would be the possibility of pregnancy, and disease, but the latter is easier to avoid i think. Also, I want to prove people wrong that not all guys just want sex and it doesn't mean a lot to them. I want to show people that it is possible to wait. I also have compete against my best friend with everything. I want to be better than him in everyway, even though we both have our strengths. He wanted to wait until marriage too, but he failed at that and he kinda regrets it. So its almost like if I can manage to wait I beat him. Now its not easy at all for me. Somedays I go crazy wanting it so bad, but I manage. I also take the rule literally, I'm waiting to have "sex", that definition is different for some people, but I've chosen to not have any form of sex, which I believe is sticking my penis in any part of a girl. So I make do with what I have and get as close to the line that I've drawn for myself without crossing that line. I know a lot of people won't agree with my decision, and/or the reasons behind it, but it's my decision and I believe this is what I want.

[Jaded Issues]

Because I want my wedding night to be filled with happiness and love, not guilt and shame.

"What if your partner ends up having a small banana or premature
ejaculation? Will that not bother you? Because surely it would bother
me."

That's because you're shallow and superficial. I care more about the man who I'm marrying, not how skilled he is sexually.

[Sam Levine]

"What if your partner ends up having a small banana or premature
ejaculation? Will that not bother you? Because surely it would bother
me."

Yeah, it only bothers me when people post rediculously self-centered things like that. Would you break up with your fiance if either of these were the case? That's pathetic.

[Kenny (TOK)]

I'm not sure we should be as hostile to the person who started this discussion as a couple of us are being. While I disagree with the sentiment, most mainstream cultures do not place a high importance on female sexual satisfaction. I think the specific problems she mentions can be overcome, but having a partner who is unconcerned with your enjoyment does not seem so easy to remedy.

[Steven Hourihan]

I second the first statement.

[0mnipotent0verlord]

TROLOLOLOLOLOLOL

[Eystein,]

"Because I want my wedding night to be filled with happiness and love, not guilt and shame."

But you choose to place guilt and shame on it, because more and more people realize that you don't have to feel ashamed or guilty over having had a sexual life prior to marriage, and so they will still feel love and happiness on their wedding nights.

"That's because you're shallow and superficial. I care more about the man who I'm marrying, not how skilled he is sexually."

If she was shallow, the small banana would fit, now wouldn't it? ...Oh you didn't mean quite so literally? Oh well, my mistake...

[Papa Bilby(Debaser)]

You are a hateful person to call her shallow and superficial.  You haven't even had sex, let alone bad sex.  Plus sexual chemistry is a huge factor in whether not a relationship will be successful.  Your bible isn't a medical or psychological journal.

[Lourdes]

i will wait untill i can, because what if you do have sex, but then you break up with him/her because it didnt work, he/she doesnt have to be a bad person to break up with you..

and wouldnt it just hurt so bad to have your first time with a guy/girl that you would eventually break up with?