Worst Kind of Suck..The Lonely Kind

[Kate Lovett]

Anyone else have a good number of friends but feel excessively lonely? I have no idea how to describe why I'm lonely because I'm not sure myself. Maybe it's missing a hand to hold, lips to touch, or the comforting hug of the best friend I've recently been forced to lose. I have no idea what it is but it's killing me. Anyone able to relate and/or give advice?

[Kate Lovett]

Thanks for all the advice. I'm still not sure what it is though, because my ex happens to be the world's most idiotic a$$....ha......... I think I'm just missing my best friend. She got in trouble and got grounded from using any form of communication or seeing us....

[Kate Lovett]

Forgot to mention, the reason I made this in the first place is not for my own personal gain. it's so people who are lonely can talk to other people who are lonely then suddenly-BAM! every lonely person has someone to be lonely with which makes them less lonely :) did that make any sense?

[Fedora.Pirate]

I know exactly how you feel, I've felt it all year. I've got a list of aquiatences three times the length of my arm, but no real friends to speak of, I really find myself feeling quite lonely quite often.

[Kate]

Wow does that sound familiar. And it's very frustrating problem to have. Because it feels like you know all these people, so making friends shouldn't be that hard, but it is. It really really is.

[Sarah]

I know what you mean. I've kinda had 3 boyfriends but never kissed anyone and I feel like very few of my friends "like" me. I feel like a total change of social scene would help a lot. Join a club perhaps?

[Lenora Johnson]

Um, I have like no real friends. There are just the people who take the word "friend" too lightly.
This is because I've lost three friends in the past three weeks, most everyone who knew me in elementary school hates me (people on my island like to hold grudges), and I can't seem to make long lasting friends.

[Declan McKelvey-Hembree]

Yeah, I know how you feel. You can have a lot of friends, but if they're just surface level then they don't bring you a lick of comfort. Friend is such a blanket term, covering everything from cordial hellos to epic glomps. Just try to make a small circle of friends who you do trust and genuinely care about, and hopefully it'll get better. Meh, best advice I have.

[YAY Karolina]

I know exactly how you feel. During the summer, especially, I can go a week without anyone contacting me to see if I'm alive or whatever. Luckily, I do have one really close friend, so that keeps me from being completely lonely. :)

[Jenna]

I feel the same way some of the time. The feeling comes and goes, sometimes it's bad and sometimes it's REALLY bad, but it does always get better, and I have hope that someday it will happen less and less. I think it's something every young person goes through.

[Karl]

I've kind of been feeling lonely (but with a good number of friends) for a while now.

Some friends I even feel pretty close to.
Even so, I don't really have that friend (or family member) that I can just tell anything and everything to...
Bummer, eh?

I also feel like almost everyone has this friend.
Is there anybody reading this that is in the same situation as I?

Note: Being in this situation, it would make sense just tell everything to a journal. Even though it wouldn't be the same as talking with real person, I feel that I could trick myself into making it work. That is if I could get past the fact that there is a possibility that someone would read some of it (even if I hide it well or whatever).
It's not even that there would be crazy consequences if someone did read it, but I just can't get past that possibility.

[oOKimOo]

I find that sometimes it's actually hard having more friends. It's like you have a bunch of people you get along with but then you're just part of a group and since the group is large then you feel unnoticed and insignificant, like no one would even notice if you're gone. I mean I love my friends dearly but at the same time I sometimes feel like I don't mean as much to them as they do to me.

I know what you mean about not having someone you can just tell everything to. I have a friend that come's really really close but at the same time I feel like I can't tell her everything because we have too much that we share. For example we pretty much have all the same friends so say if I get in a fight with one of them I can't tell her how I feel because she can't take sides between her friends. It would be nice to have someone to talk to that's removed from the situation.


Writing in a journal just doesn't always work. As you said there's always the chance that someone might read it. Also A journal can't give you advice or comfort you. It's just there for you to rant in, i's really not like that friend you can always talk to.

[Katie]

I agree with you two. I don't have a certain best friend, just in a group with three other girls and we're best friends. But it's hard because everyone picks favorites. And I'm never a favorite.
I've also never had a boyfriend so there's no romance or kisses or anything.
My friends hate giving hugs. They mostly hate the big preppy clique in my school who hug each other every five minutes, so I've never been hugged by them.
It is sad to watch everyone else with others they love and can connect to. Just today, my friends were changing for practice in the locker room when I told them I would go to the bathroom, 5 feet away. When I returned they had left, and my other friend (who wasn't with us to begin with) walked in 10 minutes later saying our first two friends walked to their cars to just drive around. Even at practice today, I noticed random little things. I always run in the back of our group. (Again, me and my three best friends.) When we stopped for a quick drink, everyone walked away after three of them had a drink. So I was left alone.
I never know what to do either. Do I act like it's no big deal so we can all still be friends? Or do I bring up my feelins so tensions can rise and drama can be stupid? As of right now I feel more comfortable suffering in silence, but it feels nice to write about it with Nerdfighters.
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