So here i am, a closeted gay 16 year old. It's come to that time in my life, where i feel the need to come out. What inspired this event? Another kid at my school came out. I live in a very conservative community and have kept in the closet for mainly this reason. Upon seeing no harm come to him, it raised my hopes, and planted the idea in my brain.
Woe is me, for i must be inspired by another to act alone.
Should i come out? With another gay kid at my school, and the promise of perhaps acceptance, i feel the need to come out. (plus the possibility of a possible romance seems nice). Now, my family has litterally told me in the past that they will accept me. They have litterally asked me in the past if i am gay, ( i deneyed because i hadn't accepted it myself yet). So here is my question, WHAT DO I DO? I don't know how to come out. I don't know who to come out to. I don't know if i should. I don't know when i should. I want to do it in a creative and fun way if possible. Any ideas? What's your story? I'm scared, should i be? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
EDIT: I did it, thanks for all the support. I love you guys.
I don't really have a story, as it's never happened to me. Which is probably why you shouldn't listen to my advice.
Which is to come out to your family first, because you know they'll accept you. Then, if you feel comfortable with it, tell this other kid as well. Maybe he could help you.
Or, if you want to be a complete dork like my friend, you could go to school in a rainbow striped shirt with big, black letters saying "OUT." That'll take a little bit of artistic boredom, but it's kind of fun too (I helped my friend with his...it was his big coming out at school).
Good luck, and remember that you have all of Nerdfightaria with you. (:
Well, it depends on what do you think "coming out" means! If coming out means to you that everyone should know that you´re gay... well... don´t do anything, just be yourself, without repression. If someone asks you, than tell he or she you´re gay. I don´t think you should do something like Michaela´s friend (wear a rainbow t-shirt hehe), but maybe to say it when you get some opportunity.
But if I were you, I´d concetrate on telling my closer friends. AFTER THAT, when you get enough self-confidence, than you should tell your family. In my opinion that´s the order: first - tell closer friends, second- tell your family, last one - come out in a broader sense (to everyone).
When a person tells "that" to the family maybe it can cause some kind of "crisis". You´ll need good friends to help you pass this through, that´s why it´s better to tell friends first. :)
Of the three steps I told you, I think family is the most important and the most dificult too. If your friends don´t accept you as you are, they´re not good friends; if someone doesn´t like you because you´re gay, just keep away from him; but you have just one family, and they love just as you love them.
So keep it in mind. That´s my advice. ;)
Inspired by someone else or not, I'm proud you've made the step! Congrats!
(In a way, this is like coming out on a smaller level.)
I hope you get great advice because I don't have much to offer. I'm not gay, and my friends that are either came out before I was around and I don't know how that was accomplished really, or they just started answering "yes" every time someone asked the question.
I wish you luck and love! :)
I'm asexual and while I didn't come out in the conventional way--making a point to specifically tell people--my friends and family are aware of it because I do talk about it when it comes up in conversation, or if I'm dating anyone. That might be another approach to consider--just being open about it, not forward. c:
Whatever you choose, I do agree that you should tell the people that matter most to you first.
Michaela, I´m not asexual too, but if you´re curious, take a look at the vlogs at http://www.youtube.com/user/HotPiecesofAce
They´re doing a good job on this "visibility" issue!