Stupid people make me angry!
I was having a conversation with some friends the other day, and somehow the GSA topic came up. My friend then announced that all gay people pronounce 's' weird. And that you could tell if someone was gay or not by the way they pronounce 's'.
I couldn't believe she said that. It floored me. How could she ever be so imbecilic as to actually think that?! I tried to argue with her, to make her see reason, but I was so taken back by what she said my words weren't functioning properly. But she wouldn't drop it. She kept insisting this was true. Some of her evidence being "Haven't you ever heard them talk? They do!" .... I couldn't believe it. I still can't believe it. And what's more, I can't believe that this sort of intolerant, stereotyping, closed-minded, ignorant, insulting stupidity in humans still shocks me.
Stupid people make me angry.
I understand you. When I do like I'm gay, for any reason, I always do the over-the-top-gay. I know most gays aren't like that. Most of the time I have to know that he/she is gay, before I can see anything that 'shows' it.
I don't know whether you have read my question which I posted on this GSA forum/group, but I felt this way too. "You can choose to be gay. Really." No, you can't choose it, you're born that way and you can't do a shit about it.
Look, I'm going to have to ask you to do something.
Let it go.
People believe all sorts of stupid things. If you get upset about all of them, you'll have a heart attack. Focus on the things that actually harm other people. If your friend thinks all gay men like pink, fine. So long as she doesn't take to violence or intolerance due to her admittedly ill-founded belief, it's fine.
I think that black men, in general, can't sing. My belief is racist. However, I do not think of black men as lesser people. They are my equals. I do not hate them, I do not think they are animals, or sub-human, or worse than white people. If anyone were to be prejudice against them or hate on them, I'd stand up for them, vocal talent be damned. I'm racist, but then, everyone is. Everybody's prejudice, everybody's stupid, everybody's intolerant.
So if you get offended because your friend thinks that gay people speak a bit differently...well, I can only envy you, because I've seen a lot of hell given to Gay people, and if I still had the innocence to think that your friend is worth getting upset about, the world would be an infinitely better place.
The day after Obama said he had "evolved," one of the kids in my science class said this, "Yeah, Obama's gay now. He wants to let gays get married, that would be awful." I think my jaw hit the floor.
Wait, is this the most "homophobic" and "stereotyping" stuff you've encountered? If so, I'd trade a lot to be in your shoes.
Almost every day people think it's totally okay to ask me how I have sex, what gender I was born as, I get called a tranny and worse and I get threatened when I go to the bathroom, no matter which one.
So please. If one of my friends was dead set on thinking that all gay men have great fashion sense I'd shrug it off without even bothering to take it into consideration.
Your anger at this is akin to being angry that you're mother didn't buy you the soda you wanted, while across the street a kid's fridge hasn't had food in it for a month.
I'm not appalled. I understand where you're coming from and I get it. This is not the worst thing I've encountered, it's one of the tamer things. But its just the idea behind it all, that being gay could affect one's speech, you know? It's utterly ridiculous and mind-missing. I don't get it. Why do people need to be separated into categories of gay vs straight and this vs that. Why does it matter? People are people, and that's the bottom line for me. I suppose it was just the blatant uneducated stereotyping that got me all riled up.