I know this might sound stupid, but I know there are a lot of different types.
I'm the kind that is very quiet in large crowds. I don't really like tons of random people unless we're all there for one purpose (like a nice band performance perhaps, or a Nerdfighter convention).
I'm actually more reflective. I think about what's happening and just watch everyone (I keep an actor's journal, and random people make for amazing entries). If you walk up to me and are actually talking about something awesome, like music or books, I will happily do my best to talk to you...but I tend to create awkward silences. I'm not good at keeping conversations moving.
I prefer face to face talk with people I'm close to because it's much easier to understand motives and just have a better time, but I seem a lot more outgoing when writing on online.
I have quiet sides and louder sides.
I'm more into music. That's where I'll be the most outgoing...while playing or listening to something inspiring...or reading a good book and having someone to seriously discuss it (on a deep level)...or deciphering lyrics with someone.
So...I don't know what else to write, but I'd be happy to learn more about you guys.
And...so...yeah. That's it.
I think I'm the kind of introvert that likes to meet new people and make new friends, but, I can't be with a person for too long, or be away from home for too long. After a long conversation or a day away from home I have to be alone to, I don't know, rest I guess. Because I feel really tired when I socialize (does that make sense?). Also, I'm quite shy and don't know what to say to new people unless there's an old friend there too.
Yeah, I'm quite nervous making new friends (not gonna lie, mainly with girls...), but after a while that's fine. And socialising totally tires me out too. I kinda like my own company at times to reflect etc. Still, I love being with people, I just hate being the centre of attention...
Yeah, being the centre of attention is a real problem to me too. I never know what to do, that's why I hate having birthday parties.
birthday parties are the worst thing possible. And surprise birthday parties, I think I'd have a panic attack if that ever happened to me. : <
I need weeks to prepare myself for a party, then hours before to pump myself up for it and decide which confident character I will try to emulate. Parties are like a play for me. I pretend to be someone confident and outgoing until I feel comfortable and can be myself.
That's an awesome strategy! I should try that sometime c:
(Actually alcohol pretty much does it for me, this "acting like I'm braver than I am", but I don't drink anymore)
If I'm in a group, even with only a two or three other people, I almost always just sit there and listen. Even if I'm not in a group, I always feel kind of awkward when I'm with another person I don't know very well. I feel like I have to say something, and it ends up just being awkward and forced.
I had a surprise birthday party once. I was certainly surprised, but then I completely ignored everyone and kept on walking down the hall. My mother had to call me back. XD
I have a harder time making friends, especially when it involves establishing connections that aren't just one-on-one. In group conversations I just like to shut up unless I have something to say of value, which doesn't really get me involved. I also would rather not be the center of attention, and need to recharge if I've had a lot of social interaction.
That's basically how i am. I can talk pretty well with someone as long as its on a subject i'm interested in, but in a group I basically tend to shut up too. It's really hard for me to keep a conversation going with one person, but with more than one, it's hard for me talk at all. I also don't like being the center of attention, and hate it when everyone suddenly focuses on me because I don't say anything, and suddenly expect me to say something. It's even harder for me to think of something to say when everyone is all of a sudden staring at me telling me to say something. I suck at talking.
I'm exactly the same! Once a group gets larger than a certain number of people, I just end up listening to everyone else. (I also speak kind of quietly, so when lots of people are talking no one hears me :P) So I like one-on-one conversations -- then I'm forced to get involved, rather than just sit there silently.
That sounds like me too. I just get very self-conscious when it's my turn to express. I have a hard time expressing my thoughts and feelings. I seem to wear a poker face often because I just don't want folks to see that I'm nervous/embarrassed/uncomfortable. I don't want folks to know that I feel inferior. Though I don't doubt some of then can already see that in me. And yeah, I think I won't be myself when I will be thrown a surprise birthday party or something like that -- anything on my tribute. Sure it's a nice gesture to make me feel special but I'd rather have a video and watch it alone so I won't have to act like I am supposed to be overwhelmed. I think I would just feel so uncomfortable when folks look at me and see how I will react.