I'd like some advice.

[Ginge Harris]

Well I don't think that this is really that important at least as far as other posts on here, and I don't really need hope. that'd help but I'm mainly looking for advice.

as most of you may know, I'm bisexual but I'm in the closet to most people IRL in my school, but I also found out that there are some boys who are bi, and yes they are rather attractive with a good personality and stuff.

I also suffer self diagnosed Alexithymia, which basically means that I have difficutly talking about my emotions. If you want to know more you can look it up, it's just a state in which you have trouble understanding and conveying emotions and things. I'm also socially awkward and cant hold a conversation as it is.

So what do I need. I need help in 1) actually talking to thses kids about it and 2) over coming my Alexithymia and actually feeling confident about coming out to people, especially my parents, I'd like to come out to them, sine I want to buy a bi pride shirt and wear it happily.

I don't know if any of you lot can give me any help but what ever you've got I'll happily take. Thank you fro whatever advice or words of hope you may have for me

DFTBA

-Craig

[Ella Bridgett-Tomkinson]

Try joining some bi or gay communitlys like at school, in your local area or online. See how other people handled comming out and then decide what to do

[Ginge Harris]

I would do, but english schools aren't like the american schools and there aren't any communities like that over here, and it's irritating, as if there were, I would've already joined.

[Sebastian L.]

just to get things straight (no pun intended), "self diagnosed" means you look your symptoms up online and concluded what would look fitting? (yeah, bad english, i'm german. sorry.)

i'm not judging or something, i just want to be sure i got the point right.

but in any case, you might want to consider seeing a therapist. dont worry, therapie is not that bad and it can actually really help. im having trouble with my emotions too, so i guess i know how you feel, and after 2 years of therapie, they are still a pain in the ass to me. but at least i understood, that they are not a bad thing and ignoring them can get you in real trouble. 

well, to your point with those boys, however you open up to them, you will make yourself vulnerable BUT it might just be worth it! what helps me is writing. i'm a far better writer than talker(in german at least :)), maybe you could give it a try. write down whats going on in your head, try to be honest with yourself and dont rationalise emotions. 

somebody said something that made you upset? well ok, you are upset and you have every right to be, so dont try do defend them by telling yourself, they didnt mean to upset you. this dosen't mean you should go an slap them in the face, but to aknowledge and accept the emotion of beeing upset.

when it comes to beeing social, take small steps. ppl who don't talk much, often turn out to be great listeners, and who dosent appreciat a good listener? talking only when you really have something to say is a lost virtue, that seems to be lost in most people.

go to parties whenever you have a chance, or join your friends on a "night" out. whatever young folks do these days :) the thing is, you dont have to be in the center of everbodies attention, just be there, get to know people and slowly overcome the nervousity.

Best wishes.