Facing your problems

[Haua (Projects Ningmaster)]

So many of us have problems in our life but some of us are to scared to deal with them, I am one of those people. Why? I'll tell you that.

About two months ago I, on accident, told my best friends mother that she skipped a class to travel with her mother, what I did not know was that the mother did not know this. Instead my friend had told her that she didn't have a class at all after her first class. Okay, this is the beginning that happended on a Sunday and the next day the school had a day outside planned by me mostly. Anyhow, I saw her there and noticed that she didn't react at when she saw me. So I went to her and asked if she was mad about yesterday, asuming that her mother talked to her, her answear was "Of course I am." and then she turned away from me.

I have known her for over 16 years so I thought she would get passed this so I didn't say anything else, as long as it didn't interfere with school work seeing how we were in the same group in Swedish class.

Two weeks passed and only thing I've said to her is one sentence about my work in the group, so suddenly she calls me the day before our presentation and talks about work. Me, being the person I am, thought that everything was fine and went to school the day after unknowingly about what would happen that day.

We are sitting in class and listening to others doing their presentation when it was our turn to talk, then she suddenly said that she would do the work on paper and I am sitting there just looking at her because she had not said a word to me about that. Thankfully a girl in class suddenly said that she can do her presentation.

I am now sitting and thinking that this draws the line, I have been okay with her not talking to me but when she involved school work in this I got mad as well.

So this is my story, now I am sitting here two months later thinking about how this all could end. We have not spoken since then and so much have happened, one of the things being that my father was in the hospital last week after an operation and she did not say a word to me at all when I needed someone.

What I think about now is that if I were to talk to her about this, are we going to end our relationship as friends? Are we going to forget everything that happened these 16 years, all the good and bad memories?

I'm so scared but I toss and turn at night thinking about this, I can't go on like this.

I have made up my mind, I will talk to her the next time I get the chance, it may be at school, by the buss station and pretty much anywhere where she is alone!

This may be a little melodramatic but I have never been through something like this before.

What I was wondering from this is, is there something that you are afraid of facing? And are you going to face your problem like I am planning to face mine?

(Sorry for this long text, I needed to get this out and the ning was the best place)

[Haua (Projects Ningmaster)]

Joyce: I was kinda like that but at night when I go to sleep i start to think and this is what I was thinking about all the time. I was lying awake for hours thinking about how I could not ignore it anymore. But it's good to hear someone have the same strategie as me when it comes to problems, kinda do this to everything else!

 

Sarah, I am with you about the guys, I have always been the girl that play sports with the guys, talk about games and so on. But during these last 3 years I have learnd to talk to the girls on their level so to say, but yeah, you're right about pretending she was never a friend to begin with! Thanks for the luck because I need it.

 

John: Oh how I wish the girls was that easy! Love hanging out with them for the reason that they really don't have the same drama about things like girls (also because they are the only people that would understand me talking about video games all the time!).

 

I have been thinking about how friends come and go during these teenage years a lot during the two months, only thing that makes me sad about this is how we were friends for 16 years. She was the one person I believed wouldn't turn her back to me so easily as she did, so all this was kinda a schocker. But I guess your right, I really should ponder and shouldn't try to fix this on my own because she should do something too, instead I will try and fix my relationship with others. 
Me wanting to talk too her is more to get a closer on this, feels like that is what I really need now.

Thanks for the luck because I will truly use it when I get the chance!

[John L. Sims]

Sooooo much easier with guys.  We just punch each other, belch loudly and drink more beer.  

I jest of course...  

 

I'll say it again.  90% of high school friends, you won't have after high school.  This isn't always true, but usually thats how it works out.  Don't panic about losing a friend now, work on building better friendships with your family.  Those are the friends that stay with you forever.

Good move talking to her, communication is always better.

 

Best of Luck! 

[Sarah]

Im the same way. People think im tough and all because I fit with the guys more than the Gals, and I think they think im cool and whatever. When I get around my gal friends, im cool with them, but if they ignore me or roll their eyes at me or give me a "look", i shut up and dont say ANYTHING at all until they speak to me. Im sort-of in the same dilemma as you though. I have a friend that wont talk to me if I say her hair looks a bit frizzy. I know you didnt ask for this, but my advice is to just pretend she was never your friend at all. If she wont talk to you after something stupid, then shes not a real friend. Peace, I wish you the best.

[Joyce]

Honestly? I'm terrible at facing my problems. I will swear up and down that no problem is too big for ME to handle, but when it comes down to it, I run. If I have a problem, I will ignore the heck out of it. I'm wonderful at pretending things don't exist!  ;)